Let me tell you a story. When I was younger (many long years ago), I fell in love with a girl maned Debbie. She was the world to me.

Then one day, I found out she was seeing someone else. She said he didn’t mean anything to her. Basically it is your story in reverse. Do you know what happened? Nothing. Not for me, not for the other guy. Neither one of us got her.

I’m not saying that there is no hope for you. Far from it. But as long as he knows he has you following him around like a puppy dog, nothing’s going to change. You need to get away from him, at least for a while. And I mean completely away. No calling, no texting, nothing.

He needs to make a decision. Right now he has the best of 2 worlds. But you don’t need to tell him that. Let him figure it out for himself. If he really loves you, he will let you know with his actions.

One warning though. If he comes back to you, don’t let yourself fall into the same trap. You better know how to handle the situation or you will end up right back where you started.

The Magic of Making Up

I’ve also got a few articles on the subject as well – http://www.get-your-ex-back-fast.com“

I mean ya he tells me all the time that he doesnt see them going anywhere and then he tells me he wants to be with me and that he sees us having kids and getting married and all that goodie stuff. Help please..!!

~cassie~

By the way, you have a very good writing skills here. Keep up the good work.

I admit that the one who complains the most about a problem is, more often than not, the one who created it.

I apologize if I offended you, but you have to remember that I wasn’t speaking about you personally. I was speaking about the girl in his message. From what you tell me, that doesn’t seem like you at all.

My advice to both of you, and I am speaking in general terms here, is that you have to be honest with each other. Don’t just complain about each other, TALK to each other. Maybe take a break and find out what you really want.

Again, I apologize if I offended you. I was only answering a one sided question.

I see 2 possible reasons for what she is doing.
1. She is testing you to see how far she can go.
2. She’s using you as a toy.

Either way, I see only one solution.

There is an old expression that say “When you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it’s yours. If it doesn’t come back, it was never yours to begin with.”

Take a break and wait it out. But if she wants you back, you better know what you are doing or it will start all over again.

If there was ever a case of someone needing “The Magic of Making Up“, it is this one. Even if she doesn’t come back, you will be better prepared the next time so it doesn’t happen again.

You can get it here: The Magic of Making Up

Hope that helps.

First of all, I need to clear up some confusion. I am Dave. TW is my friend, collegue, and mentor. I only wish I knew as much as he does.

As for your question, there is a strategy to getting your ex back that requires more than a blog response. I suggest contacting TW himself at The Magic of Making Up.

To Zoe,

I am curious when he has time to stare at you? You need to take a break away from each other for a while. Like I said to Debbie, there is a strategy to this and one of the first strategies is getting away for a short time. After that, there are certain things you can do to improve your chances. I hate to sound like a broken record (does anyone remember records?), but The Magic of Making Up has the answers you need. I suggest checking it out.

Dave