7 Ways To Rekindle The Fire Of A Relationship That Has Gone Cold
I have seen many couples that, while they are still together physically, the relationship seems to have died a long time ago. What can you do to bring the magic back and prevent a breakup from happening?
Here are 7 ways to rekindle the fire and passion you once knew:
1. ATTITUDE – Get an attitude adjustment first. Lighten up and do a 180-degree about face. Read the Sunday comics, grab an old comic book, turn on the Comedy channel, watch funny videos or DVDs. Get in a better mood and pass it along to your mate. Invite your mate to tune in to comedy with you, too.
2. FRIENDSHIP – Go back to being friends for starters now that you’re in a good mood. Forget the love stuff, if you want. And just focus on being good friends. Share compliments, do things for one another, go out and have fun together, enjoy one another’s company.
3. RELAX – Let your hair down. Trust and relax. Be yourself. Don’t let old wounds open or fester. Forget the garbage memories and just be in the here and now together.
4. TIME OUT – If possible, spend extra time together for awhile, like during your original courting days. Hire a sitter, order out, eat at fast food places, grab ice cream cones and go for walks in the park. Get to know each other all over again. That’s the key. Then you’ll remember why you fell for each other in the beginning and history will hopefully repeat itself.
5. COMMUNICATION – Take it slow and easy. Keep away from subjects that you don’t agree upon. And slowly re-learn to communicate with each other all over again. If necessary, and it’s not a crime or shame – get help. Seek a trusted friend or adviser, a church clergy member or certified professional counselor. No need to go it alone. Find your weak areas and how to overcome them and plan for future communication difficulties.
6. GOALS – Gradually develop goals together so you’ll have a direction to head. Write them down in a notebook just for the two of you. And over time, develop them, revise them, cross them off your list. The idea is to HAVE goals together and work towards a common goal.
7. SCRAP BOOK – Create a memory album together. Add photos, clippings, menus and anything that reminds you of the “good times.” Then when tough times comes, you’ll have something to “hold on to” – your bridge to romance.
So don’t just sit back and sulk. Take short steps to improve your relationships and let life’s problems magically pass by while you hold on to your relationship.
August 7th, 2009 at 10:18 am
thnk u!!!!!!
November 12th, 2009 at 10:47 am
if he is not free for a few of the ways of the 7 ways,what can I do? I only can have time with him 1 hour everyday average except sleep time he is next to me. even he got time but he is already tired.
please help me! what can I do? I am so helpless…
November 14th, 2009 at 6:42 pm
1 hour a day? That’s not a relationship, that’s just co-existance.
I don’t know the reason why your time togather is so limited, but the first thing you need to do communicate. You have to realise why you are not together more often and what is important in your relationship.
If finding extra time to spend together isn’t possible, you have to make that 1 hour count. You have to subtly remind him why he enjoyed your company in the first place.
I suggest contacting T.W.Jackson. After all, he is the expert. You can contact him by going to his site and scrolling to the bottom of the page. His contact link is there. Here’s the link.
http://www.getmyexbackhq.com/goto/Click_Here_Now_The_Magic_of_Making_Up/126/1
I wish you the best.
December 7th, 2009 at 5:26 am
Spend more time together I think. It must be hard with work and all, but, make an effort and things will get better.
January 10th, 2010 at 3:31 pm
My girl won’t tell me if she is taking off I trust her so I don’t ask . She will fing out where I am and then takes off with her friends but won’t give me the common curtisy of letting me know she is going out. She is home all day when I am at work . if she knows I’m working late . she will go out and try to make me think she was at home . I can’t take it I told her who I felt and she tells me to stop being insucure . What do you think.? Am I wrong or is she ?
January 17th, 2010 at 12:13 pm
Andrew.
I see 2 possible reasons for what she is doing.
1. She is testing you to see how far she can go.
2. She’s using you as a toy.
Either way, I see only one solution.
There is an old expression that say “When you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it’s yours. If it doesn’t come back, it was never yours to begin with.”
Take a break and wait it out. But if she wants you back, you better know what you are doing or it will start all over again.
If there was ever a case of someone needing “The Magic of Making Up“, it is this one. Even if she doesn’t come back, you will be better prepared the next time so it doesn’t happen again.
You can get it here: The Magic of Making Up
Hope that helps.
January 24th, 2010 at 12:13 pm
This is in response to the comment Dave left in reply to Andrew. First of all Dave there are always two sides to every story. Now what was failed to be mentioned was that first we don’t live together, second his job is not a 9-5 job many times he doesn’t get home until very late sometimes the next day. Third the situation in particular that he is referring to took place not even a whole week after we are BOTH supposedly trying to start over ( what does #3 say oh yes don’t let open wounds fester live from here and now & #2 oh yes become friends again!!!)and he is the one who told me to go out if I want I invited him to go have a drink with me, but he said he had already drank and was home so he could not drive.So at about 12:30 at night ( give or take ) he txt me asking if I’m being careful my response: “Yes babe I will be over there in a little while o.k.?” Now lets back up just a little where was I oh yes a bar. So at about 2:15a.m. I txt him asking if he still is awake, he responds yes so considering this is the first time I have gone out w/o him hassling me about where or who I’m with I decided hey maybe I should reward him so I txt & ask “who is at your place” considering I don’t want to show up in a little naughty outfit and to my surprise there are people there ( cause that is not uncommon for people to be there at all hrs ) so because I asked that question he goes off on me telling me that I must be up to no good because I should of been there already and have no reason or right to ask who is there. Now ask I stated at the beginning we are supposed to be starting fresh. I have NO TRACK RECORD what so ever of cheating or anything like that in all fairness neither does he, but non the less I thought was a bit extreme. Don’t you !?! Considering the whole trying to “start over again”. So now with that being said, oh one more thing “using him as a toy” what you also don’t know is he will tell you that if he was “stuck on the moon” I would drop everything to go get him. So I am resentful about that comment “using him”. NOW having said all that Dave I would LOVE to hear what your outlook on this situation is.
January 24th, 2010 at 6:35 pm
To Andrews Girl:
First of all, you are right. There are 2 sides to every story. But since I don’t know you and had no way of getting your side, my only option was to respond to his question. I wasn’t trying to act as a counselor, I was just answering a question from his perspective.
I admit that the one who complains the most about a problem is, more often than not, the one who created it.
I apologize if I offended you, but you have to remember that I wasn’t speaking about you personally. I was speaking about the girl in his message. From what you tell me, that doesn’t seem like you at all.
My advice to both of you, and I am speaking in general terms here, is that you have to be honest with each other. Don’t just complain about each other, TALK to each other. Maybe take a break and find out what you really want.
Again, I apologize if I offended you. I was only answering a one sided question.